Made of Honor

I was out and about earlier this week (praise God, my asthma is starting to get better, so I am able to walk around without getting too short of breath. I’m not fully out of the woods yet, but I see plenty of light ahead!). and I made a brief stop at the library to check out some movies. After selecting a few titles, I headed back home.

You must remember that this switching-the-television-on thing is a pretty rare occurrence for me. I haven’t had cable TV in nearly twelve years (and I haven’t missed it, either), and for the most part, the only time I turn on the TV is when I’m going to use an exercise DVD. Lately, since I have been indoors for much of last month due to asthma issues, I found myself indulging in the occasional movie rental. I’ve watched a couple of really good movies, and some I wasn’t able to get through, because I simply did not find the content to be enjoyable.

Anyway, a few days ago I picked up a once-quite-popular movie that I thought would provide a couple of hours of light entertainment (I’ve seen it before, but it was several years ago). I’ve come to realize that I have changed a lot over the years, and so have my tastes in entertainment! I won’t bother to finish the movie, but made the following observations about much of what passes for quality entertainment these days, after having only tuned in for about twenty minutes or so:

  • Marriage is seen as something that is not worthy of respect or honor. At worst, it is seen as a legal formality of some kind, but stripped of the deep meaning and honor for which it was originally created. At the other extreme, in these films, we often see a reversal of the biblical order of things in the relationship – the woman is the one running things, and then man seems to be sitting by passively. And for some reason, this inversion is celebrated by our culture today as a good thing.
  • The other thing that I found to be quite disconcerting about this movie – and others, too – is how much we’ve come to simply accept narcissism as a tolerable trait in other people – significant others, loved ones, colleagues, etc. While I understand that we may never escape it completely, do we really have to celebrate it? Seriously – when one person blatantly uses another for his/her own gain, perpetuates elaborate lies in order to get his/her own way, and has zero empathy for others, well – these are not good things! Recognizing that these all-about-me tendencies exist is one thing, but celebrating them (by making them the major plotline of an allegedly humorous movie) is not the way to go. 😦

You may be thinking, “Wow – this really isn’t a very hopeful post.” Wait a minute! I’m not done yet. Let’s remember this: No matter what society says or does, only what the Lord says is true and will ultimately stand in the end. So there are a few things that we must bear in mind:

  • God created marriage (check out the first few chapters of Genesis), and He defined what it is, too.
  • As with everything else in His creation, the Lord deemed that marriage was good – and it still is, when done His way.
  • There is a divine design to all things, including marriage. This means that there is a role that the woman is supposed to play, and one for the man, too. However, when Eve started listening to the crafty serpent – who targeted her for a reason! Let’s not forget that! – ate the fruit and then offered it unquestioningly to her husband (who then ate it), we are able to observe the consequences of what can happen when God’s order is reversed. Mind you, God still had a good plan for Adam and Eve – and He’s got a good one for each of us, too – simply because He is good that way. But His plan and the consequences of our choices are not one in the same. He can – and does! – redeem our sins, turning darkness into the light, but more often than not, He allows some consequences remain.

I’ve shared before that I am not married, but even as a single woman, I have tremendous respect and reverance for the institution. Like the Bible says in Ephesians 5:33, a man is to love his wife, and a woman is to respect her husband. This is wise counsel, indeed.

The way I see it, the Ephesians 5;33 rule is relevant for all of us, actually – married or single. When women are disrespectful to men (usually when we desire to take over and control things), there are significant consequences – often long-lasting ones, too. Similarly, when men are unloving to women (including being neglectful toward them), the trickle-down effect can often be quite devastating.

So here is where I see hope in this situation: GOD says that marriage is good and is to be held in honor, so let’s just do that. Are you married? Then remember to treat your spouse with love and respect (because we all need a mix of both). Single? Then remember to behave honorably to those around you – male or female. And behaving honorably is not just about our words – we have to be careful with our body language (including our eyes!), too.

Simply put, I think we should reclaim the institution of marriage by carefully considering what we say, do, listen to, and watch, too. And the movie I was telling you about at the beginning of the post? Yeah, I’m not finishing it. Back to the library it goes….

And while not all marriages will succeed for any number of reasons, let’s remember that it is the institution that should still be honored – simply because God says so.



21 thoughts on “Made of Honor

  1. What you have written is true! And I bet there are some movie that won’t see you getting past the first scene. It has become a norm to portray the perversions of marriage and sexuality as normal. But we must do all we can to avoid their normal becoming ours, especially for the sake of our children. We must be brutal in guarding our hearts against the arrows of immortality flying around.

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    1. Amen, Alethea. The thing is, several years ago, I apparently wasn’t as sensitive as I am now! I suppose I can chalk that up to the Holy Spirit smoothing out the rough edges of my heart and mind. 🙂

      And you are right – we must remain vigilant. Not legalistic by any means, but simply watchful and careful.

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    1. That is wise counsel, Ryan! And while the Hallmark movies may be somewhat predictable, they’re also usually quite safe and family-friendly, too. I may have to see if I can find some of them online. Thnaks for the tip!

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  2. Very important post. One deserving of reblogging indeed. I’m glad you written this post because it’s exactly how God has taught me. Marriage is very sacred, not a game, not something we do lightly, and has nothing to do with legalistic world views. Gods design of marriage brings Him honor and glory. Building a legacy, which the devil doesn’t like. One pastor spoke, “Marriage is easy, when you put God in the center of it always.” We have the Holy Spirit guiding us along the way. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 I thoroughly enjoyed this post tremendously! ♥️

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    1. Wise words, Tiffany! I especially like the quote by the pastor that you mentioned – I’ll have to remember it! It sounds like the Holy Spirit is teaching us similar lessons on the marriage/relationship front.

      Also, I listened to a message on God’s design for marriage on Friday and it really struck a chord in my heart. Later that evening, I sat down to write my daily post for the blog and this is what the Holy Spirit had to say about the issue – I sort of surprised myself to realize that I have such strong (but biblical) views on marriage, and how men and women should treat one another more generally.

      Thanks for taking the time to read the post. I appreciate you, my friend! 🙂

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      1. Excellent point. One thing that comes to mind about the Ruth and Boaz story is that neither one of them was looking for a spouse when God made the connection – they were both focused on living lives of excellence, and doing what they could to be of service to others. The lesson is an important one for us today as well, it seems!

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  3. Oh, such a good post, offering words of wisdom from our Heavenly Father and interpretation. A big pat on the back to you for being discerning in your media intake (it’s HARD!), and choosing the edifying.

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    1. Thanks, Kathy. I wish I could take credit for “being discerning,” as you say, but in truth, I was a little frustrated at first. I got twenty minutes into the movie, but truth be told, the Lord whispered something at the five-minute mark, “ahem’d” at the twelve-minute mark, and then flat-out shouted by the twenty-minute mark.

      Yes, the Holy Spirit is many things – chief among them is that He is very, very persistent!! After all, I had rented the movie from the library, driven home, eaten dinner, put the DVD in, gotten comfortable on the couch – only THEN was He like, “Um, NO. This will not do.” Here’s how my warped human logic goes: Why not just say something to me back at the library??? 😉


  4. Ephesians 5 is such a good reference for marriage. It so clearly states that a each spouse is to love the other, and treat the other as we would treat our self. Hallelujah! The things I see now a days is husband and wives aren’t suppose to even like each other. Always trying to out wit, out maneuver, undermine, and win. Ephesians says he that loveth his wife loveth himself. No man ever hated his own flesh, but nourish and cherish it. And women are to do the same. I’m sorry to go on and on but when we get married we become one. Before we do things to our other half, would we do it to ourselves because that is what we are doing. 🙂 Great post my friend 🙂

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